Cliché Not

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” I happen to only take lemon with my tea and I certainly am not a fan of lemonade, so I don’t abide by such cliché advice. Although, it seems like a viable solution to problems, it just isn’t always easy. Summer is over & my babies are back home. It’s not always a smooth transition to get back into routine so I often find that I’m overwhelmed during the whole month of September. My son started middle school and since he is now attending a charter school, his scheduling is different than my daughters… which puts everything out of sorts.

I have it all figured out. It’s really just a matter of executing the routine and getting accustomed to it. My son will now have to walk from his school to his after school program alone, which was stressful at first but he has a cellular phone now so the rules are that he calls me the moment he gets out, when he gets to his program and if he runs into any problems. So far, he’s done exceptionally well, which came as a surprise to me because I was worried he may have been a little immature with things like that but he’s given me quite a shock. I’m sure once he gets into the groove of things, he will start making stops and things of that nature. I’m not fond of that but I don’t really have a choice but to trust that he makes the right decisions. After all, we’ve discussed it.

I don’t want to be one of those mothers who smother, but I also don’t want him to think that he can do whatever he wants either. Regardless, I never realized how much more worry comes with your children getting older and having to do things on their own. I have always been sort of a worrier, which really isn’t good because I find that I stress myself out with it. At any rate, the show must go on and I just have to suck it up and allow my son to grow. I’m already getting on his nerves and I can tell he gets a bit irritated with my worrying. His father doesn’t seem to be as worried. Maybe it’s a male thing.

5 Comments

  • I think any stage that we have to “let go” of our kids is going to wreck nerves! Talking to them about what you expect and praise when they get it done seem to really get you far, GOOD LUCK!

  • Trust me, you are not alone and yes, moms definitely worry more than dads. It’s in our nature and I’m not sure if there’s a cure.. lol. The bad news is that it never stops. My daughters are 21 and 22 and I still worry about them way more than I probably should, but not nearly as much as I used to. I guess there is hope for us yet… 🙂 :love:

  • Yes! With society today and its shortfalls concerning the respect for black boys and men I am so much more concerned with parenting my son now than I ever have before. I am so learning that there will constantly be new stages of parenting even as they enter adulthood.

  • That’s key Shannon — make the routine, get accustomed to it, and stick with it no matter how hard it can get sometimes. I usually get overwhelmed when back to school starts as well, so I totally get how you feel. Take it slowly and move at a pace that suitable for your family.

    And I agree with Mimi, I am a worry-queen and when my daughter starts more afterschool activities, she’ll be getting a phone as well. Don’t be a helicopter parent.. lol, but it’s ok to be cautious about your children as they grow. They will ALWAYS be our babies whether they want to accept that or not. LOL!

  • good luck with getting used to the routine. i’m sure it’s tough but once you all get into a good routine and know what to expect, hopefully it will be easier on you!

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